I wish I never began a long distance relationship.

I wish I never began a long distance relationship.

Reason #1
You're on the opposite end of the world from the person you are dating. Okay, it may not be the total opposite end of the world but it is sufficiently far that any amount of distance is considered large as long as it keeps you two apart.

Reason#2
There is no way you can come home after a day at work/school/both to find your S/O readily available to hang out, have dinner with, or even cuddle with (this is blasphemous). (This is also tied to Reason #1) If you're having a hard time at work or school, having your partner comfort you over video chat/call/text is nothing compared to a reassuring hug. Similarly, if you have had an amazing day, it simply isn't the same sharing great experiences virtually

Reason #3
No (real) sex. Enough said.

Reason #4
The time difference is real. The sun may be up over here but the dark evening sky has long fallen over where they are living. If you're living in the same time zone, awesome. But you're still far apart.

Reason #4a
Because the time difference is real, if you have a busy schedule, it is unspeakably difficult to find a mutual time that you can TALK. Yes, just finding time to TALK and have a substantial conversation is a massive struggle in the days/nights of late working hours + overtime + life priorities.

Reason #5 (Perhaps the most emotionally gut-wrenching, for me at least)
Long distance is a HUGE leap of faith. A leap of faith in that your relationship will work out and you will have spent all this time together (but physically far apart) effectively...to build your relationship, gain stronger communication and deeper understanding of your S/O. However, this faith is wavering - it has its days in which you think "Yes, I love this person and I cannot believe I have found THE person for me" but there are also the days where you reconsider "Is this relationship worth it? Will we ever close the distance? Who will be the one to close the distance? What am I doing with this person who I mainly communicate with over the internet and phone?"

Obviously, there are innumerable amazing qualities but for me, it may come down to how strong my faith is in long distance. This is my negative Nancy post of the month. For all you travelers out there who have found someone you love who lives in another country...Best of luck...and welcome to the struggle bus. Hopping on is easy but the ride may not be for everyone.